I say don’t let them make you decide anything. Who is going to run your life them or you. If you have feelings for both then you should see both of them. You are not stringing them along. They both know about each other. As long as you stay fair and they know what the deal is then it is up to them to decide if they like you enough that they want to be with you. This way you will not even have to choose if they care for you and want to be with you they will take you as you are. Which is what you want anyway. If one doesn’t stay well there is your answer to that one. If the both go away well again they sure didn’t like you that much and they would have gone soon anyway. Nope Abby, you be you always and don’t let anyone give you ultimatums about your feelings as long as you are being honest and up front and not just on an ego trip. You genuinely like them both so date them both. Eventually you will know which one, you care about or you may find you don’t feel that much about either of them. That is what your teen years are for to find out about your feelings and what they mean to you. Date who and as many guys as you want, as long as you are not doing anything sexually or deceptive have a good time. You aren’t engaged to them. They have no rights over you and they are free to walk anytime they want so why are they putting this condition on you anyway, ego Abby.
Don’t go for it. Stay who you are let them make up their own minds and when you are ready in your own time, your own way you will make up your mind. This formula works in every area of your life. Do not let others dictate to you what you will and won’t do. You stay in control over your life and as long as you are not doing anything wrong or harming anyone then you are definitely being an independent self thinking adult which is what you want to end up being.
OK good luck and I hope you take my advice. Please write and tell me what happens.
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