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Teens with boyfriend and girlfriend problems / BF Problems
« Last post by Psychomoonlight on August 25, 2005, 10:41:18 PM »
­I been in a relationship for a long time. He's going to college, and I am bidding him goodbye. We agree to call each other every saturday. Everyone wants us to break it off because I feel sad, but it not that. We are in a LDR. My mom told me that the best thing about it is that we never have to say goodbye. I love him too much to split up. We think spliting up will just make it sadder. Please, I'm confuse and need advice how to tell people we are together.

One of the reasons we share is because we both were born with Autism. We met online, and met in real life. It was love at first sight. He stopped me from making the sadest mistakes that could alter my life. He is my guardian angel, and I am for him.

-Psycho
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Teens with boyfriend and girlfriend problems / ­i think maybe if you
« Last post by nene on August 23, 2005, 10:59:39 PM »
­i think maybe if you focused on how you try to go with some girls you like and if that doesn't help then make the change for yourself.
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Teens with boyfriend and girlfriend problems / time has changed
« Last post by nene on August 23, 2005, 10:47:49 PM »
­me and my boyfriend are going to diferent high school's and i dont know if we should still continue our realationship one reason why we can't continue is because we are both big flirts even though i want to make this work i just don't know how as much as i love time has changed were not in middle school anymore.so please help me.
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Teens with boyfriend and girlfriend problems / ­ yesenia:
« Last post by MaryAnne on June 09, 2005, 12:30:39 AM »
­ yesenia:

Well your forum name fits doesn't it (smile). Just kidding. I understand what happened but you do need to take more responsibility than you are especially since you are 18. You are old enough to be up front and shoot straight with a guy especially a friend. Even if he did want more than to just dance you could have talked it over with him and gotten things straight between you and made a commitment. You mistake was you just left your friend hanging there and for a stranger, not very nice. None of us would like to have that done to us, would you?????
You may not want to go to school but facing up to your actions and taking the consequences for your actions is the right and honorable thing to do.
What I would do is go right up to my friend and ask if you could have a private talk with him? Then I would explain myself and apologize for what I did to him and that you know it wasn't right for you to do.
Ask him for his forgiveness and that your heart hurts for what you did as your friendship means more to you than some guy you don't even know. Tell him you are sorry and that you will never put any one above your friendship unless it is love. Try to make him feel good and important in your eyes again. You hurt him no matter how he may act. Think about it, it would hurt you wouldn't it? It would me.
Always treat the other person the way you would want to be treated and you will never have guilt or lose a friend to something so unnecessary and unfulfilling.
Let me know if your friend will talk and if you talk it worked it out and he was willing to bring back the love of your friendship and go on from there.
I hope he is forgiving and is willing to spend the summer with his female friend. I want you two to work it out and be able to make mistakes and go back to where you were before you acted human like we all do.
Please write me and let me know how it turns out.
It isn't the end of the world nor should it be the end of your friendship. All I am saying is leading up to his forgiving you and
realizing you are human and he has made mistakes too. To look deeper into your relationship and hopefully it was built on more than a few mistakes. I hope it is built on love and trust. I will hope for that.
I will look for the ending to your story and pray it is a happy one.
Mary-Anne
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Teens with boyfriend and girlfriend problems / feeling used
« Last post by luvingurl4 on June 06, 2005, 10:51:52 AM »
­well i whent to this school dance w/ a freind.....everything started o.k. as we dance...but then i got the feeling that he wanted more than just dancing.....so i also hangout w/ my friends and i told my date(friend) to hangout w/ his friends while i go dance w/ my friends....all of a sudden a guy that i don't know if i liked started dancing w/ me and i spend the last half of the dance w/ hm.....well the thing is that we kissed and i got a hikie....afterwards i felt bad for my date because w/out doing it on porpose i ditched him.... i really don't want to go to school because i don't want to see the guy that i danced w/ at all....i mean we always just flirt what should i do

yesenia rramos
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Questions and MaryAnne's Advice / ­ Molly:
« Last post by MaryAnne on May 14, 2005, 05:47:27 PM »
­ Molly:

Well, it is all according to how much you care about yourself. If you want to be used and abused stay in contact with him and let him have his cake and eat it too. He has her and you and doesn't even have to sneak or lie about it. Or you could care about Molly and tell him it is either her or me and there is no friendship because you can't go that way watching him be with her. Make him decide he knows which one of you that he really has it for make him own up to it and live with it.
I would like to see you care about Molly and not see her used and settle for second best. Self respect is so important without it you have nothing and all guys will see you that way. People treat us the way we ask to be treated. How we ask to be treated comes from how we treat ourselves. If he knows he can get away with treating you second best and just use you on the side he will do it and that should be a real downer for you. There are too many great guys out there for you to put up with a guy who dumps you and then wants to keep it going at his convience. Believe me you will be second best not her. You have already lost him or it would have never gotten to this point so you have nothing to lose by putting it to him straight. It is her or you and make sure you can deal with the answer. If you can't then plan on being used and a lot more heart break.
Let me know what you decide and do,
Mary-Anne
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Mental and Emotional Health Questions / ­I am going to check it out
« Last post by jayls on May 02, 2005, 01:30:55 PM »
­I am going to check it out right away and I will let you know when I get in touch with her, I also got in touch with a Haven House for battered women here where i live and I have my first appointment for couseling on Thursday. I am excited because I also found out a bunch of new info. that has once again hurt me soooo badly. He just doesn't stop so I need to find the strength to stop and I am trying to do it properly. I really appreciate your assistance in helping me,it means alot.
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Questions and MaryAnne's Advice / ­ but the guy stills talks
« Last post by lachelle1992 on April 24, 2005, 12:26:35 PM »
­ but the guy stills talks to me and wants to be friends what should i do

molly whirley
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Questions and MaryAnne's Advice / ­ Molly:
« Last post by MaryAnne on April 21, 2005, 11:52:02 PM »
­ Molly:

Your heart may be broken but yours is easy to say what to do. Drop them both. Who needs friends or b/f's like that?Find faithful friends and true/blue guys who want only you. They are out there and they are looking for you too. But if you go back to either of these you can never trust either of them again and you can never be sure if they are still seeing each other on the side or thinking of the other when the three of you are together. I would cry my tears and realize if either really had cared about me this wouldn't have happened. It has nothing to do with you. It has to do with what is lacking in them so don't take it personally even though I know you will (smile). But cry it out, hurt it out just don't go back and find a guy that is good enough for you and you can always find a great best friend, that I know. Just get out into life again and start having fun it will all fall into place and before you know it you will have a great best friend and a honey of a b/f and the two that betrayed you will have broken up. I will bet ya for sure. Anyway I am sorry this has happened to you but we all go through it. In fact I think I took someone else's share and mine. But I made it and now can't touch me I know I will make it. I don't settle for less and I make sure he hits the floor first in love. Always get a guy who loves you more and is the giver. You be the taker and enjoy the love being given to you.
There isn't much to advise on a situation like yours. It is pretty black and white. You have an old story. You lost your two best to each other yet they weren't your two best or it wouldn't have happened. You just found out in time thank goodness. But I can say the sooner you believe what I am saying, dry your tears, realize it wasn't you and get back out there the sooner you will have forgotten the pain and will have that smile back on your face and guys everywhere that you can stay up half the night talking to your best friends about.
I promise it will all come back and better this time.
Let me know if you need any more help or you have more problems with getting over this. You are better than this do it you can do it.
Write and let me know what you decide and what happens as I always care what happens to those who write and if I can help any or just be there for support and for you to write to.
You just let me know OK?
You are better off you will see that by this summer,
Mary-Anne
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Questions and MaryAnne's Advice / ­ my bff is dating my ex
« Last post by lachelle1992 on April 21, 2005, 07:32:40 PM »
­ my bff is dating my ex boyfriend what should i do i need advice

molly whirley
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