Well, you did have a very old fashioned evening out didn’t you, how beautiful and romantic. I am so glad you got to have what I would consider a “dream come true”. Where you wanted a movie like experience to come out of a guy you like at work but had no indication he would do anything about it. Then he came through with all that you could have asked for.
Now, why do you have to push? Like a fine wine or a flower just let it sit and let it grow as it is going to do no matter what you do. If this is supposed to be more it will and if it isn’t it won’t. You are the woman and he is the man, you are not God or the “matchmaker”. Don’t assume you have more power over life and how things go in life than you do. That is one of the “rules” of nature. All things go just as they are going to go in spite of we human trying with all that we are to bungle things up. Somehow they work out.
You like him and your adrenaline is flowing along with your imagination but you need to remember life and people have their own time schedule that is not yours and both have their own agenda that also may not be yours.
Instead of saying ok wasn’t that great, now where do we go from here and what’s the next step towards a relationship, just your letter scared me and I am not even the guy. Slow down, enjoy what you had let it be. Let it set with him. You don’t have to do anything. You let him know in no uncertain terms that you were attracted to him and he responded by asking you out to lunch and turned it into a whole evening with wonderment on both your sides. Any more approaches, contacts, would be pushy and would make me pull away if I were him. He knows Boston, just leave it alone. Your email was a nice “FINAL” touch. Go back to work and to life. It is now up to God, fate, mother nature, him what happens next if anything. But the last person it is up to now is you. You would just embarrass yourself and take away all the beauty of your day together.
I have had many perfect “one” dates and looking back if I had pushed or done any thing else it not only would have never worked out because of where the guy was in his life but it would have ruined the “one perfect day.”
So, my advice is to just let everything be as it is and as it was on that day. Anything more and you are going to just look desperate. He is a grown man, with his own mind he will do what he wants to do.
Good luck, let me know what happens,
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